At some point, I turned my ears off
stopped listening to the music that soothes my soul, the people that I cared about, and to my heart’s desires.
At some point I turned into something that I always thought I was far from
holding the biggest pair of headphones to tune out the world, with nothing else playing
except the swooshing of an ocean that doesn’t exsist.
I’m not good at talking about myself – and when I say “Oh, I’m not good at talking about myself….” I don’t mean in like a shy, coy way. I’m physically incapable of remembering facts when asked, I all of the sudden lose any opinion I’ve ever held on a subject, I play down every aspect of myself I’ve built up the courage to learn to love.
I’m not good at talking about myself and because of this I keep almost everyone I know at arm’s length. I don’t build my relationships like I should and I know it’s hurting me. I have some AMAZING people in my life that I just let slip away – partly because I’m afraid I’ll say something wrong when I talk to them, partly because if I don’t I’m worried they’ll ask about me and I’ll just be silent.
This is how I play out most of my relationships. I’m fine in small bursts until you realize you’re not really getting to know anything about me, just the first 2-3 conversations I’ve trained myself to know. The small talk that makes people think I’m nice but very bland. And maybe I am just nice but bland, but I think there is still more to me buried underneath this shell of a character I sometimes have to play.
my perfect life isn’t some setup containing perfectly matched white sheets and duvets,
it’s queen bed frames clothed in king sheets sporting mismatched patterns and colors.
my perfect life doesn’t include posts about crushes and dreams
it’s secret cuddles before bedtime and entwined feet while we sleep.
my perfect life is a gallery wall made with all the portraits held by clear thumb tacks,
comprised of the art and life that made us feel deeply and love profoundly.
my perfect life doesn’t beautifully capture the light on the camera,
but it does capture the beauty in smiles and laughter.
it’s messy and moving constantly
going at a rate that always seems to catch me off-guard
my perfect life is all i never dreamed of asking for
because i couldn’t ever quite articulate how wonderful it really is.
at some point, i grew up
and started losing the things i cared for
stopped dreaming my big dreams
and working hard toward fantasies
at some point, i stopped feeling
a compassion for the world
because things started haunting me in my life
taunting me, causing strife
i couldn’t control the frustration inside
that left me feeling unfurled.
lost and forgotten,
no child of this world.
surface emotions and false promises,
so deep in your own pain, toes curled.
we all get jaded, some more quickly than others.
maybe we become jaded to the actions we have
and the things that life taught us
when just living comes with limitations of jealousy, loss, heartbreak, and loneliness.
we find in that jaded state of living, where we ignore the things that molded us into beings and pasts we can’t remember, that we hurt each other and not in ways we’d ever expect.
we push past the faults that we can’t quite plainly see
and realize, more than not, those faults you find in others
are really faults you’ve discovered inward, in your own “me”
you came around when the times were wrong
and brought with you the pain
of rebuilding lives that are broken already
and people you will always try to help in vain
you can’t help but to be true
to the nature you’ve been taught
and reopen the battles of those you love
the battles they’ve already fought.